Thanksgiving week in 2016, was the week of Tenley's 2nd birthday. It is the hardest week of the year for us because there is nothing worse than having your child's birthday without your child. This year we decided to do a virtual celebration for her by having our family and friends write her name in creative ways and send them to us. It was a beautiful way to remember our sweet girl with so many family and friends.
At the end of the week we discovered that my exhaustion was not because of grief, I was a few weeks pregnant. The next week was full of some excitement and a lot of fear. We began to relive everything we went through with Tenley and wondered if this would be the same experience again. I think I called the doctor every day that week asking questions and sharing my fears.
The next few months were challenging. I had doctor appointments every few weeks to monitor the babies growth. These appointments scared us every time, but it was nice to be watched so closely. At every appointment we thought that we'd be told the worst. When we received positive news we would be relieved and happy for about an hour, then the fear would come back and we wonder when the bad news would come. Genetic testing came out normal, and we learned that we are having a girl! 💗
We kept the pregnancy quiet as long as we could. It wasn't that we didn't want to share our news with people, we just didn't want to face the questions people may have. We also didn't want people to think that because we were pregnant again everything was good in life. This child does not bring Tenley back. We knew that no matter what the outcome of this baby, we would still live with the heartache and loss of Tenley for the rest of our lives.
Despite all these feelings of fear and dealing with the pain of what could have been with Tenley, we have done our best to make the most of this pregnancy, and celebrate the good moments. That is what Tenley would want, to not worry and make the most of every moment. Even though it has been hard at times, we have tried our best to live in faith and positivity.
Tenley's little sister will be born in just a few weeks. We are so excited to meet her and hold her. This experience has been scary and emotional, but it does not change the fact that we love this little girl just like we loved her sister. We will raise her to know that she and her sister are blessings to us.